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Good sex not a priority to UK women

Only 2% likely to end relationship due to poor sex, research by ELLE Magazine shows

Research amongst UK women has revealed that they are far more likely to end a relationship due to lack of emotional support than poor sex.

With emotional support and intimacy so crucial to relationship survival it is no surprise the proximity of today's digital technology brings new infidelity threats and definitions, with online sex and flirting-by-text both widely considered as cheating and grounds for relationship breakdown.

The research conducted to mark 25 years of ELLE Magazine, revealed that 'Emotional understanding & intimacy' is the most important element of a relationship for almost half of women (46%) whilst just 2% put sex top of their list.

When asked the most likely reasons to end a relationship only 2% of women cited 'poor sex life', versus 38% who said 'lack of emotional support' was a deal breaker.

The one-one-one intimacy of online and mobile infidelity emerged as a bigger threat to relationships than flirting in person - with both online sex and flirting-by-text strongly regarded as cheating by 65% and 35% of respondents respectively.

Some 58% of women considered infidelity unforgivable whilst 37% said their decision to end a relationship with a cheating partner would 'depend on the circumstances'.

Jenny Dickinson, deputy editor of ELLE said: “The research showed women do not always see relationships in black and white - we saw a good balance of both modernist and traditionalist thinking within the survey. However, the results raise an uncomfortable question around infidelity in terms of what women are prepared to accept in such an integral part of their lives. As infidelity (and the way it is dealt with by high profile women) becomes ever more visible, are we lowering our expectations and simply putting up with it as an inevitable part and parcel of modern relationships today?”

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Is it possible to get a date by texting women?

Dennis Miedema explains mistakes men make when they’re texting women

The cell phone has become an important part of everyone’s daily life. Most people in fact can’t imagine a life without a cell phone!

People have obviously always used their phones to call others, but the text message was mostly a thing for teens. Until now.

Research firm Pew Research has released a report on adults and how they use their cell phone. The study shows that the number of adults sending and receiving text messages has increased from 65 percent to 72 percent since this time last year. The report also shows that 5 percent of all adults send 200 or more messages per day, every single day!

Top dating coach for men Dennis Miedema was one of the first to comment on the findings: “All these text messages, billions of them worldwide, are sent every day and yet almost no single guy knows that getting a date by texting women is possible! Most guys tried it once or twice and then gave up, but if they don’t know how to text women then does that mean all men on the planet can’t get a date by texting women? Hell no! Men simply need to know the mistakes so they don’t ruin their own chances to get a date, because lots of men don’t know what they are doing wrong! Why are men still making these mistakes? They really don’t have to!”

To help single guys, Dennis wants to ask men everywhere if they are making these mistakes when they’re texting women. He starts to explain how to text women with: “If men want to know how to text women, then they first have to realize that texting women is not a substitute for calling women. Here’s the deal: when a guy gets a girl’s phone number and he texts her the day after instead of calling, guess what the girl will think? She will think the guy doesn’t have the balls to call her, that he’s insecure. So men should not text women the first time after getting women’s phone numbers!”

Then Dennis provides a solution: “It’s better to make a quick call, create some more attraction, and then get the date with text messages. Why? Because texting with a woman forces her to wait and hope for a response after she replies to a guy’s text message, which creates sexual tension because when exactly the guy will text back is unpredictable. And unpredictable is attractive to women: bad boys are 100% unpredictable for example…”

Dennis continues with: “Speaking of calling women and how it relates to texting women: text messages can be a perfect way to test if a woman’s available to talk on the phone! All men have to do is grab their phone, send a woman a text message, and the moment she replies? They will know she has time to talk or she wouldn’t text back. This is a good way around one of the biggest disadvantages of calling women: not knowing if the call is made at a bad time or not, so not knowing if a woman’s busy or not. With this text message test men are able to know when they can call women and when they can’t, which makes asking women out over the phone a whole lot easier because there won’t be that many voicemails to be bothered by anymore! If men want to know how to text women and why it’s a smart idea, they should start to see the light by now.”

Then Dennis explains a third mistake men make when they’re texting women: “Most single guys forget that text messages are all about, surprise, surprise, text! They can only talk to women and boost the attraction by using text and this leads to many, many misunderstandings. For example: how does a woman know when a guy is being serious, being a jerk, or just teasing her? She doesn’t know, which can result in arguments, her rejection of the guy, and other bad stuff. The trick is that guys should give text messages the meaning they want them to have by using emoticons. By using the :P emoticon for example, they can clearly let a woman know that they’re in a playful mood and only teasing her. Not using :P could mean a woman thinks they’re insulting her because they’re angry or something along those lines…”

He goes on to say: “But not only do guys stop misunderstandings, arguments, and rejection by women when they use emoticons. There’s more to how to text women. By using emoticons men can also give their text messages a much bigger impact, simply because attraction is a feeling based on emotions and using emoticons means putting more emotion into a text message! As one can see: more emotion means more attraction, especially if emoticons are used to tease women.”

Dennis Miedema gives away one more clue about how to text women: “When one talks about the dating game, one has to understand that women test men to see if they are genuinely interested in them. Not showing a genuine interest means getting rejected. Men should remember that when they’re texting women, because there are certain moments where they can show a genuine interest without much effort! For example: women tend to think about the things and people that matter the most as they lay in bed thinking about their day, right before they fall asleep. If a guy sends a woman a kiss good night, he shows a genuine interest in her, he will be the last thing she thinks about before she falls asleep, and she will think he’s a romantic guy. Women love this! These three things are all things that make women feel more attracted to men, which is why men should start sending text messages with good night kisses every damn night!”

He concludes: “Once men everywhere start remembering and using the tips for texting women that were just shared, then they will be able to get dates when they’re texting women 9 out of 10 times instead of failing 9 out of 10! That makes using a phone only for calling women a stupid… a real stupid idea. The quantity of text messages is growing and now it’s time for the quality to improve, especially in the dating game.”

Dennis Miedema is the author of The Simple Inner Game System and a trusted authority on dating advice for men. During the last two years, he has helped at least 2,321 men approach 18,568 women, get 4,642 phone numbers, and go on 1,547 dates.

He has spoken in front of hundreds of single guys on such topics as how to text women, asking women out over the phone, how to get women’s phone numbers, how to keep a relationship interesting by using the phone and more. As more and more people keep sending more text messages, he hopes that men everywhere will take the time to learn how to text women so they can get more dates without much effort.

For more about how to text women, go to http://win-with-women.com/?p=2774 to check out Dennis Miedema’s newsletter with free tips for texting women and calling women.

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Ejaculation Guru release video showing how to last longer in bed

Author Jack Grave reveals how he went from lasting less than 10 seconds in bed to over 35 minutes

Author Jack Grave has released a free online video explaining the treatment process for lasting longer in bed.

He reveals his personal struggle with lasting less than 10 seconds in bed and how he overcame the demoralizing situation without medication or surgical intervention.

In a market where most authors hide behind the anonymity of text, Jack Grave bears his soul as he explains the difficulties he endured while suffering with a severe case of premature ejaculation (PE).

The authenticity of the video allows viewers to relate on level previously not possible without face to face interaction.

In his video, Jack also reveals many strategies for lasting longer in bed that most other treatment programs of a similar nature charge significant sums for. This innovative strategy of offering a free video packed with high quality information before asking for the sale has helped surge the expansion of the Ejaculation Guru guide in the market for educating men how to last longer in bed. Following on its success some competing programs are already releasing feature videos of their own.

In the video, (available for free at www.EjaculationGuru.com) Jack discusses the “intense embarrassment” he experienced and recounts his sadness in being unable to relate to his friends’ sexual adventures while suffering from his severe case of PE. The video develops to Jack explaining the realization he had that began his transformational journey to naturally cure his condition. He discovered that “these guys [his friends] who were lasting long in bed weren’t so different from me ... They were just doing different things before and during sex” and all he had to do was figure out what those different things were.

The video transitions to explaining several methods for lasting longer in bed naturally and without the need for pills, special creams or surgical intervention. Most notably, Jack focuses on a concept called “Pleasure Awareness” and goes on to explain that most men fail to appreciate how close they are to orgasm and what the specific causes of orgasm are.

In understanding the causes of pleasure and orgasm a man can treat his PE by taking control of those causes. And Jack goes on to explain several methods a man can use to control these causes to last longer in bed.

The Ejaculation Guru video includes the story of how Jack Grave went from lasting less than 10 seconds in bed to over 35 minutes and the methods he used to make it happen.

The video has already been viewed by thousands of people and can still be seen for free on the Ejaculation Guru website at www.EjaculationGuru.com.

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Footballers' Wives star tells single parents 'you're brilliant'

Gingerbread: "They deserve praise, not criticism, for the brilliant achievements they make"

Footballers' Wives, Spooks and Strictly Come Dancing star Laila Rouass has helped launch a campaign to tell the 1.9 million single parents in Britain that they are "brilliant" and let them know there is practical advice and support available if they need it.

The actress is backing Gingerbread's You're Brilliant campaign, which aims to reach out to the one in four families headed by a single mum or dad and offer them the support they might need in the current economic climate.

Gingerbread supporter and single mother Laila said: "Most single parents are strong, capable people doing their best for their children - we're all likely to know someone bringing up a family alone for one reason or another, and the vast majority do a great job of it.

"As a single parent it's hard not to be affected by the negative stereotyping that still goes on.

"Sometimes everyone needs to be told they're brilliant, and I'm pleased to support Gingerbread in doing just that for single parents."

Gingerbread said many single parents had told them they were fed up with attitudes that cast them as scroungers if they did not have a job, or as bad parents.

Six out of 10 single parents managed to juggle a job with bringing up their children, and most of those on benefits were keen to work but couldn't find jobs that fitted in with school times, or couldn't find childcare, according to Gingerbread.

With single parent families set to be affected more than most groups by the Government's planned cuts, Gingerbread is urging single parents to get online or pick up the phone and get practical advice to help them make ends meet.

Fiona Weir, Gingerbread's chief executive, said: "Single parents are raising happy, healthy children and most are holding down a job too.

"They deserve praise, not criticism, for the brilliant achievements they make."

As part of the You're Brilliant campaign, Gingerbread is launching a new website providing expert help and information, including vital money-saving tips, job-search advice and support with sorting out issues around separation.

Centred around a forum for single parents, the website will enable single parents to share information and support each other.

Single parents can join up free as Gingerbread members via the website, giving them access to a range of member benefits and discounts.

Ms Weir added: "Now more than ever, single parents are facing a really difficult time because of the economic downturn.

"This is why we believe it's the right time to launch Gingerbread's new website and offer single parents the helping hand they may need."

Gingerbread works nationally and locally, for and with single parent families, to improve their lives. It aims to champion their voices and needs and providing support services.

For more information go to www.gingerbread.org.uk. The charity's Single Parent Helpline can be reached on 0808 802 0925 and is open Monday-Friday 9am-5pm, with late opening on Wednesdays until 8pm.

By Emma Foster, Community Newswire

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Survey: 10% of Brits only wash bed sheets six times a year

23% only do the laundry when dirt marks start becoming embarrassingly visible

Ten per cent of Brits only clean their bed sheets six times a year, a new research by Indesit has revealed.

Unless the sheets noticeably start to smell, a fifth of Brits wouldn't even consider washing them.

And 23 per cent only do the laundry when the dirt marks become embarrassingly visible.

The average person will tackle the sheets once a fortnight, but only if they no longer smell fresh or look dirty.

The shocking figures emerged in a study of 3,000 people, which also revealed that 92 per cent of people love the feeling of getting into a clean bed, but can't be bothered to put in the leg work.

Four in 10 people say the reason they don't wash the sheets more often is because they get stressed having to re-make the bed.

And 61 per cent rarely iron their sheets if they have made the effort to wash them.

Incredibly three quarters of people polled acknowledged that they should make more of an effort to clean their home - in particular the bedding - more often.

But 49 per cent of Brits would much rather spend their spare time drinking in the pub, and 43 per cent would rather socialise with friends than do housework.

The Indesit study was conducted to mark the launch of the UK's first 'Party Launderette'- a trend which originated in the US.

A spokesman for Indesit said: ''There's no two ways about it - doing your laundry is a chore that has to be done.

''Most Brits would rather be out with their mates or drinking down their local rather than stuck indoors with the washing machine.

''In acknowledgement of this, we are bringing the 'drink and dry' craze from the US to London's East End from the 15th October - giving people the opportunity to get their washing done while partying the night away.''

In addition to cleaning the sheets, the study also shows people are pretty lax when it comes to other household chores.

The average homeowner vacuums just once a week when they can no longer see the carpets under the mud, dust, and food and drink spills.

The average bathroom will only get cleaned once every eight days, regardless of how many people have been using it.

And dust is left to build up on ornaments, side boards and shelving units for over a week.

Even the dishes aren't done as regularly as they should be in most households - as the average person washes up just once a day rather than after every meal.

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